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I’m Probably Naive For Saying This, But I’d Be a Bit Sad if Travis Cheated on Kylie

1) I’m a huge fan of Travis Scott’s music so I don’t want him to be a philandering asshole, but since I am such a fan of his music and not against the messages in his music I’ll still remain a fan even if he’s a cheater…I’ll just like him a little less.

2) I love Kylie Jenner and I feel for her. Yes, I think her life is waaaaaaayyyyyyyy easier than so many people. She is not starving and she isn’t living in a war torn country, BUT I think that the family she’s grown up with would have undoubtedly put alot of pressure on her to get as sexy and beautiful as quickly as possible. No, I don’t think Kris Jenner or anyone else would have ever directly told Kylie “get hot and beautiful asap” as a child, but clearly the family makes money off of how hot and beautiful they are. So it’s easy to imagine Kylie feeling affected by what her family promotes to make money.  The family’s hotness is also why I’m in interested in the Kardashian/Jenner’s, so I’m a part of the problem/it’s not all the KarJenner’s fault. Nevertheless, Kylie is only 21 and I think that she has to feel some sort of intense psychological pressure to try to look good all the time/maintain her brand and perform as well as her female siblings. That would be hard on one’s mental health in my opinion.

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3) Before the whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan Thompson hook-up supposedly went down, I wondered whether Travis and Jordyn had ever hooked-up. At that point, I thought it was a crazy idea, but then at the same time, I was asking myself, “Why do I really think it’s that crazy?” Jordyn is a gorgeous girl. Just as gorgeous as Kylie. Travis is a young man, and even people with the best of intentions often fail. Beauty is tempting! I read Jordyn as someone who would probably be loyal to Kylie to the core, so the Tristan Thompson scandal has been surprising. Yet, it’s not the end of the world. I get it if Khloe, Kylie and the others in the KarJenner family don’t want to hang out with Jordyn anymore, but the rest of society needs to take a moment, breath, and let Jordyn off the hook. If Jordyn got with Tristan it would mean that both Tristan and Jordyn were acting shady…BUT  Tristan much more so than Jordyn, since he’s the one that owes his loyalty to Khloe (if they’re in a monogamous relationship) and since he has a baby with Khloe. I do need to point out that, from what I recall, Tristan started dating Khloe when his ex had either just given birth or was pregnant with Tristan’s son Prince. Tristan’s love ’em and leave ’em pattern was established prior to Khloe.

Even if 21 year-old Jordyn hooked up with Tristan, it doesn’t mean she’s evil or a homewrecker! The person in the relationship who cheats is the homewrecker in my opinion, not the person outside of it. Jordyn might have made a mistake, but it doesn’t mean she should have to hide inside away from the prying eyes of the public for the next 10 years. A lot of us have made mistakes like Jordyn, so I foresee this helping her career IN THE LONG RUN, not necessarily right away. Maybe some haven’t done anything like what Jordyn apparently did, but then I think the mistake people make is judging “the other woman” or man way more harshly than they deserve to be judged.

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4) Point blank: it would be excruciatingly painful to be cheated on by someone you have a young child with. I’ve been with guys who I’m monogamous with and obsessed with and they would have sex with others and rub it in my face, but we weren’t in a relationship and I most definitely didn’t have a kid with them…and it still hurt me so bad and in one situation contributed to a mental breakdown! If Kylie did just get cheated on that is so mean and insensitive of Travis. Hopefully, he’ll give Kylie space if he cheated instead of stringing her along. If Travis isn’t faithful and wants to hook up with lots of girls that’s totally ok. What’s not ok is lying to the person you supposedly love. People who do that make a leap from being honest about carnal desires to being downright douchebags.

Anyways, since we don’t actually know what’s going on behind closed doors (and we’ll never know the full story but it seems right now we don’t even have confirmation of part of the story) there is no point in assuming anything about Travis Scott, Kylie Jenner, Jordyn Woods, Tristan Thompson or Khloe Kardashian.

For all those people who’d say, “why do you care about these people’s lives anyways?” I’d say because you get attached to people whether you’re watching them in the public eye or know them in real life…and also because most of us can relate to being played by shady people and being shady ourselves. Nobody’s perfect, but all of us have felt the pain of betrayal and so it is interesting to see how someone like Kylie, who I do care about, will deal with this alleged cheating situation, especially since she is also raising her young daughter, Stormi, with Travis. Travis and Kylie’s lives are intertwined in a permanent way because they share a child.

One thing this reminds me of is that personal relationships aren’t ever easy!

Asher Penn: Producer of Maggie Lee’s Documentary Mommy

I love watching documentaries but sometimes it can be hard to find ones that are exciting, interesting, and that tell really personal stories. I believe there’s lots of them out there, I just don’t always know where to find them.

If you’re a docu-film-fan like myself, please watch Maggie Lee’s MOMMY (click here for a link to rent or purchase the film on Vimeo–it’s worth it! I spent $15 to see it tonight at The Cinematheque–my first time seeing a film there–and it was worth every penny).

The movie is 55 minutes long. Mommy involves Maggie Lee telling the story of her mother’s life as well as her own, and letting us see what Maggie Lee experiences in the aftermath of her mother’s death. The film is funny and honest. It is also sad, touching, and heartbreaking. It made me feel a lot of things and it made me reflect on my own relationship with my mom, because I can’t imagine what I’d do if my mother died suddenly.

This film is unique from many other documentaries that I’ve seen in that it has beautiful, vibrant visuals: words, drawings, colours, flashing lights and other artistic creations that make Mommy that much more engaging and gorgeous to watch (Maggie Lee is a successful artist so these touches make sense). As well, I want the soundtrack to the film (at the Q and A after it we were told it’s on Spotify). The music was energizing, painful, and fun. The movie is so much more than just a few things, and the many things it is are superb. I have a short attention span, but this film held my focus throughout. I love Maggie Lee and how vulnerable she was in letting the viewer see what she went through after losing her mother.

Mommy was so easy to watch and the film sped by too quickly–I wished there was more!

After the viewing, I talked to Asher Penn who produced and took part in the creation of the film with Maggie Lee. Asher is currently working on a documentary about Gabor Mate. Watching film to overcome feeling like a freak or an outsider is something Asher suggests doing: I agree!

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Sara Bynoe Creator of Teen Angst Night

Tonight I had the pleasure of attending Sara Bynoe’s Teen Angst Night at the Fox Cabaret. I laughed a lot! It felt good. Going in I thought that maybe the material written during the 10 participants teen years might not be that good or entertaining, but, boy, was I wrong.

Sara was a hilarious and very charming host! All the courageous people who got on stage were funny, vulnerable, and confident enough to go back in time and share some pretty embarrassing thoughts . They revealed their often self-centred, dark (suicide came up quite regularly), and contrived writing styles they exhibited during their teen years. I so relate! In grade 10 I won a poetry contest for a poem called “Enveloped Surroundings”. I think the title says it all.

Sara shared that she has been running the Teen Angst Night since 2000. According to Bynoe, her plan is to retire the Teen Angst Night with a prom-themed event in the spring of 2020. That means there are a limited amount of Teen Angst Night’s left that you can attend. I recommend going while you still can. The next Teen Angst Night is at the Fox Cabaret on March 22nd. Advance tickets are $10! It’s worth it.

I kind of felt like a freak and an outsider at the beginning of the show because I went alone, but once the performances started I felt right at home!

Teen Angst Night uses humour to remind adults how lucky we are to be old enough to look back and laugh at it all.

Thanks to Sara for sharing her thoughts on what she loves about Vancouver (flowers in February are pretty special) and getting over feeling like a freak or an outsider through punk culture and ‘zines!! I wanna be more like Sara Bynoe.

DEVOURS: Delightfully Dark Dance Music

Earlier this week, I was listening to the CBC while driving and someone (sorry because I can’t remember her name) started playing snippets of different DEVOURS songs. I immediately loved them! I’m terrible at looking for music, but I’m always desperate to find music that makes me want to dance or exercise. Within a few seconds of listening to his music, I could tell that DEVOURS fit the bill!

The CBC announcer said Devours was a Vancouver musician, so, out of curiosity, I googled whether or not Devours was going to be playing any shows in Vancouver. Lo-and-behold, I found out he was playing the China Cloud on Main on August 24th. I purchased tickets for my partner and myself. We had so much fun at the show! Devours (a.k.a. Jeff Cancade, who originates from Nanaimo) is also playing a show tonight, August 25th, as part of the Hexistential Festival on the Red Gate Revue Stage (CLICK HERE for more info about the festival).

What do you love about Vancouver?

DEVOURS: “I have a list of things that I love: the first, food wise, favourite restaurant is a place called Kinemi’s Kitchen. It’s in Champlain Heights. It fuses Asian with Italian cuisine, really interesting meals. I love it. This is a sort of a boring answer, but I also love that the Skytrain goes right to the airport. I’ve been to a few other cities, and this is like amazing in Vancouver. And then the other thing maybe just is the size of the city, it isn’t so big that it’s overwhelming, but it has everything you’d want in a city: lots of diversity, a cool arts scene, it has the downtown, it has neighbourhoods that feel kind of cozy. I don’t know it kind of has a bit of everything, so I think it’s a nice city. Is that a boring answer?”

No, I don’t think that’s a boring answer! I avoid spending money on cabs at all costs, so being able to take the Skytrain directly to and from the airport does make this city extra special.

If you’ve ever felt like a freak or an outsider, what helped you through it?

DEVOURS: “Ooh yeah, definitely feel like an outsider in Vancouver still…not so much, but a few years ago, before I started performing live here…I wanted to play music in Vancouver and music, like genre-wise, there wasn’t a lot happening here that sounded similar to my music, and so I felt like an outsider. I also am a little bit older than some of the people starting out in the scene here, so I felt a little bit awkward about that at first. Also at the time I didn’t know other gay musicians in the scene here, and so I wasn’t sure if my voice would be heard, or if there was a place for me here. All of those things combined made me feel pretty hopeless that I wouldn’t be able to find my place in Vancouver, but I think that what helped get me through it was getting involved and that is ultimately what it is.

There are a lot of people in this city that also feel like outsiders, I think. It’s not the easiest city to break into, but there is a lot of amazing stuff here and a lot of amazing people. I joined a choir actually, an East Van choir. I joined something called Shindig, which is like a battle of the bands. I just got involved and really was outgoing and forced myself to go to stuff and go to shows. I think that that’s what it takes I guess is just like exposing yourself to stuff and realizing that everyone feels a little bit weird, but that everyone wants to be friends and make friends.”

I am really going to focus on taking that last line of Devours answer to heart! It is so easy for me–as someone who gravitates towards spending time alone and because I have a lot of anxiety when I am around other people–to reinforce my self-perceived outsider status. Devours words reminded me that I will never be able to break out of feeling like an outsider until I open myself up more and realize that I am not alone. Next time I feel like a freak, I’ll remind myself that “everyone feels a little bit weird”-Devours. Well put!

Here’s a link to DEVOURS Bandcamp page: CLICK HERE. 

I just bought Devours 2016 album Late Bloomer from Bandcamp. Hopefully, I’ll use his music as motivation to get outside for a workout in the rain today!

Baths Interview

I fell in love with Baths album Obsidian back in 2013. It is dark and sad, yet also very danceable and catchy: a rare find in my opinion. Anyways, Baths (aka Will Wiesenfeld who originates from California) took the stage (in Nike running pants, which I found entertaining) at Fortune Sound Club last night.

The crowd was clearly really into his music and his set flew by (I can easily get bored at shows, but this was not the case at his show). Part way through the set he mentioned that he’s sick, but I never would have know since his voice was incredible, clear, and powerful.

If you’re feeling down and want to wallow in your sorrows while listening to some beautiful indie electronic music download some Baths asap!

 

 

 

 

LA Group Clipping Found Their Fellow Freaks

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Clipping (left to right): Jonathan Snipes, William Hutson, and Daveed Diggs

Clipping played the Biltmore tonight and their showed was packed to the brim. I must say they’ve got some seriously loyal fans and I understand why. Jonathan Snipe, William Hutson, and Daveed Diggs comprise Clipping and their music is a unique combination of quirky and surprising electronic noises, solid beats, and relentless rhymes. VanIsReal.com got a chance to speak with Clipping after their show, and it was a pleasure speaking with the guys! Give ’em a listen if you want to hear unpredictable hip-hop.

If you’ve ever felt like a freak or an outsider, what helped you through it?

“If you feel like a freak for long enough you’ll find the other freaks who also feel like you, then, you know, the norms get to be freaks and that’s friggin’ awesome…”