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Tristan and Khloe: My Theories on Cheaters

This is what I think: Any man who believes that there are only SOME types of women worth treating well is going to end up treating the woman he loves the MOST the WORST. It’s a catch 22 in my opinion. 

I feel the need to say that Khloe Kardashian in no way deserved to be cheated on. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, especially when they’re pregnant. But I don’t think the public’s interest in and focus on this cheating scandal is all coming from a malicious and cruel place. I think people are connecting to this story for a few reasons: 1) there are lots of Khloe fans out there because she’s hilarious and straight-up and many beautiful things and 2) some of us have been played by people in our own lives and so this cheating scandal stirs up painful past emotions.

EXCLUSIVE: Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson hold hands after dinner at Zuma in Miami

Still, my hope is that it is possible for us outsiders observing this story to learn something positive that will help improve our own lives as a result of theorizing about the cheating scandal going on with Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson. Yep, in layman’s terms, talking about this shit is like self-help (if you want it to be…but it’s also a form of entertainment, too).

I think analyzing this Khloe/Tristan situation can help increase the chances someone will get out of excruciatingly painful situations or stop repeating personal patterns. In the past when I’ve had low confidence and I’ve seen public figures (i.e. Halle Berry) who I think are very desirable get cheated on, or betrayed by their partners in some way, it’s shaken up my idea of how the universe works. As a by-product it helped improve my confidence because I couldn’t ignore the possibility that the reason a guy doesn’t want me might be due to something other than because I’m ugly (I now see that I’m not ugly, I’m beautiful…at least I feel that way a lot of the time). Rejection by a guy was always something I blamed on my own shortcomings.

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When I was younger, I kind of thought being hot would prevent someone from being cheated on. Through seeing public stories of betrayal, like when Halle Berry’s husband cheated on her and publicly admitted to doing so, started to teach me, little by little, something new: cheaters, abusers, etc. treat people bad due to how they feel about themselves, never because someone is ugly or dumb or somehow deserving of poor treatment.

Nobody deserves poor treatment. I have to remind myself of this because I’ve put up with a lot of emotional abuse due to an underlying fear that I can’t do any better or because I’m not worthy of being treated well.  Cheating is about more than how a woman looks. Also, men can control themselves and their dicks.

If talking about the Khloe/Tristan scandal stops one person from going through the same thing, then I think that discussing painful situations—such as when your baby daddy sticks his dick in someone else right before you’re about to pop…assuming that’s how far Tristan Thompson took his cheating—is worth it. (Just so y’all know in case ya don’t: There’s currently no actual physical proof he fucked someone else–make-outs, crotch grabbing and motorboating are the only acts we know happened for sure—unless the security video of Tristan and two lovelies in da club is a fake and it’s the ILLUMINATI trying to play with our minds (kidding, I’m seriously not an Illuminati believer AT ALL)).

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This is what I’m thinking after seeing the latest celeb cheating scandal:

IF HE IS TELLING YOU ABOUT ALL THE BITCHES HE TREATED POORLY IN THE PAST, YOU CAN GUARANTEE YOU’RE GOING TO BE ADDED TO THAT BITCH LIST ONE DAY:

I dated a man once who told me he cheated on his pregnant wife a few times–his daughter was 10 or 11 when he was telling me this–and in case you’re wondering, he was still married at the time I was dating him, but he lived separately from his wife. Nevertheless, I felt their need to co-parent was a guise for their continuing co-dependency–like for example even though he had sex with lots of other women he said that his wife hadn’t been with anyone since they’d broken up, which made me think they were still together and/or he was continuing to lead her on by staying married to her. So even though I’m saying I don’t think I’d date a man who has another woman pregnant, I have dated a guy who was still married–regardless of what the actual state of their relationship was at the time, which, since I could never trust what he said anyways, I’ll never really know–I’ve dated some people I should have run from IMMEDIATELY and didn’t due to low self confidence.

While I continued to date the guy after he told me he was still legally married to his wife and that he’d drop by his wife’s place (where his daughter lived) whenever he felt like (another red flag that made me think they were likely still together) when he told me that he CHEATED ON HIS WIFE A FEW TIMES WHILE SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH THEIR DAUGHTER a part of me started to hate him, even though I still found him sexually attractive, more than I already did (for a variety of other reasons such as how he’d treat me).

I felt sick to my stomach because it was a sign that this man would NEVER be good to me. At least that’s how I interpreted his confession that he’d cheated on his pregnant wife. Anyone capable of hurting the person they’re supposed to be committed to loving the most is definitely fucked-up to the point that they’ll hurt anyone who gets close (unless they go intense therapy and experience a massive shift in thinking). While I’ve dated some douche bags there is one thing I’ve alway kept in the back of my mind, even though I tried to push it out of my mind I couldn’t entirely forget when I was with these men that they were going to hurt me badly if I continued to spend time with them. And they did. It wasn’t a risk worth taking because of the emotional trauma I’ve experience from it. I wish I had walked away instead of stepped closer to people who made me feel ugly, unattractive, unlovable, and worthless. When these men talked shit about other women they’d been with I knew in my heart that they’d treat me just as bad as their past partners.

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The scary thing about someone who cheats like Tristan Thompson is that the chances of the video/photo proof of his cheating being ALL of the cheating are slim to none. He is brazen and openly cheating on his very famous, very pregnant girlfriend in public and he’s famous too. Did ya think no one would see, Tristan? I think that when someone is that open to other women that it’s not suddenly shut off except for the odd slip-up.

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Tristan’s Mom (wonder what she’s thinking right now), Tristan, Kris, Khloe

CAN A NON-CHEATER/NON-PLAYER START DATING A NEW WOMAN WHILE HE HAS ANOTHER WOMAN IMPREGNATED? IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK A MAN TO STAY ABSTINENT IF HE HAS ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT? Give it a rest, man!

If it is true that Khloe started dating Tristan when his ex was pregnant with his child than that’s not very cool. I should never say never, and I’ll have to admit I’m an idiot if the universe tosses a curve ball my way and I end up dating a guy who’s already got another woman pregnant at the time BUT, until then, I’m gonna say that it’s not hot when a guy already has another girl pregnant. Even if she got pregnant from a one night stand and they were never even in a relationship, I think the guy should give his dick a break while she’s pregnant. Don’t know why I feel so judgmental about this, but I feel like 99% of men who have someone else pregnant already and are entering into a new relationship before the women pregnant with his child have even given birth is probably a hard-core player: one who’s always looking for the next best thing.

I think Tristan probably went out of his way to an extreme degree to convince Khloe that his relationship with her was somehow different and that he was faithful, but then it’s like, what would make his other baby mama so horrible that she’d be dropped while she is pregnant. A man could support the woman he got pregnant through her pregnancy without needing to date her or fuck her: being celibate or not starting a new relationship is a way I think a man could respect the woman he’s gotten pregnant. I know this idea is way too uptight for most, but it’s how I feel.

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I think that those videos are minor examples that Tristan Thompson is probably VERY open to women every time he is in a situation where he thinks no one is watching and that he can get away with it. If being faithful comes from a place of respect for the woman that you’re with and for yourself, then you won’t be sucked into motorboating a woman at a club. If someone is simply creating the APPEARANCE of being faithful because they (Tristan) want one public woman (Khloe) because he thinks she is superior to other women (because of beauty, wealth, kindness, intelligence, whatever it may be), then that guy (Tristan) ain’t go no real respect for women and if you’re with him, he’s going to end up burning you.

IT SUCKS TO DATE ATHLETES AND MEN WHO GET TONS OF ATTENTION. IT’S HARD STAYING A FAITHFUL IN NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES, SO DATING A MAN WITH TONS OF WOMEN AFTER HIM IS SCARY AS FUCK. 

The hard part for me to understand (I never really have people openly hit on me so I don’t know what it’s like to have to reject non-stop advances from hot people) is where a guy who is an athlete or famous and/or rich in some other way gets so much attention from women that there is a non-stop flow of female attention coming their way. I have no idea what that actually feels like and how persuasive that would be. Some men probably only have to shut down someone aggressively hitting on them on a monthly or yearly basis, but it’s safe to say Tristan Thompson probably gets hit on many times a day.

But I think there are faithful men out there who get hit on a lot. I think that men who are able to stay faithful can do so because they choose to mentally disconnect from the sexual desire they feel for the person hitting on them (depending on how attractive they find the person hitting on them to be). Also, don’t take risks that make it harder to stay faithful: not getting too physically close to people one finds attractive or choosing to put the importance of the relationship one is committed to in the forefront of one’s minds).

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IF HE’S GOT A VIRGIN/WHORE COMPLEX, HE WILL FUCK YOU OVER WHETHER HE THINKS YOU’RE THE VIRGIN OR THE WHORE. 

Any man who believes that there are only SOME type of women worth treating well is going to end up treating the woman he loves the worst (in my opinion). It’s for each and every woman who is dating a man to figure out whether he respects women or not (for example if a guy thinks there’s such a thing as a difference between a good girl and a hoe and that each “type of woman” deserves to be treated differently (aka better or worse), well then, guess what? This guy’s gonna be an asshole because he doesn’t really think women are equal to men. If a man views a woman as his equal and partner he will not go doing her in a way he doesn’t want coming straight back to him. I wonder how Tristan would react and feel if he found out Khlo boned a dude while she was pregger with his kid? I don’t think this is the case, because I think Khloe seems like she’d be the ideal girlfriend who is very loyal and trustworthy, so I don’t think Tristan had anything to worry about. But now that he’s wronged her and their child, I’m curious about how she feels.

Why do cheaters seek out those who don’t cheat? Because cheaters have fragile egos and they could never handle receiving what they dish out (yes, I am bitter based on people I’ve dated in the past who were like this..can’t say they were cheaters since they were open about being with other women, and we weren’t in committed relationships. On my part, I was monogamous with them. I never did anything to make them feel I was interested in another man, because I wasn’t and that’s not who I am. They rubbed their other conquest in my face of course. Yet, I noticed these men freaked out at the smallest sign of feeling like I might find someone else attractive or not be entirely obsessed with them: HYPOCRITES!

All I know from being with liars and cheaters is that I suggest people who want to maintain their self-confidence STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM! Based on my experience with perpetual playboys who always need the attention of multiple women at any given time, the men I dated only seemed to feel loved when they realized their treatment of me hurt me deeply (which I would express through intense anger and name-calling, so yep, I’m fucked up too). If I was not in pain and freaking out about how much they were hurting me, then it seemed like they thought I didn’t care at all so they’d need to treat me bad again to see if I cared enough to react (and I did at the time). So this all part of a cycle between people in harmful relationships.

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Imaginary convo: “Oh, you thought I’d be cool with you public humiliating me with side chicks a few days before I pushed your baby out of my vagine? Boy, bye!”

Khloe does not open to settling with Tristan Thompson and continuing to date him and be his woman even though he did her this way. I’ve never got the impression any of the Kardashian-Jenner women are accepting of their men being unfaithful. That doesn’t mean warning signs weren’t overlooked on Khloe’s part, but she still didn’t deserve to be lied to and cheated on. No way, no how! I love Khloe and ultimately, people can’t live their lives guarded and always expecting the worst. Even though I have a tendency to think in worst-case-scenarios-ways I still dated assholes who treated me terribly. Still after those relationships and after hearing about Khloe and Tristan, I wonder what can be learned for next time. Celebrity gossip (especially when there’s proof like with the videos of Tristan cheating) can be productive and can help change our lives as viewers for the better (if we want them to).

EVERYBODY IS INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY, BUT FOCUS ON THE FACTS TOO.

Don’t ignore facts. Like, oh, he has another girl pregnant right now. Even if they’re not in a relationship it doesn’t really make a diff if she’s got a bun in the oven and the dude you wanna bone is the papa. If I was in this scenario, I hope that I’d ask myself, “would I want the dude who’s baby I’m having to be fucking other girls while I’m preggers?” No, I don’t think I would like that very much, and so I hope I wouldn’t take part in putting another pregnant woman through that pain, but attractions have made me and many people do crazy things and ignore all rationality in the past, so who am I to judge?

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Chyna: “What stroller?”

I’ve got another question on hand: Who gonna date this dude (soon Tristan won’t be Tristan, he’ll just be that dude Khloe had a baby with) next? The overlap with pregnant baby mama and starting new relationships/hooking up with others while baby mama pregnant has happened twice so far. Hopefully, Tristan can get help and change his patterns. I believe it is possible to stop destructive relationship patterns, but there has to be the desire to do so. Maybe Tristan just needs to find a girl who can live with his indiscretions and is open to a Sister Wives situation like Kody Brown’s wives are.

I hope Khloe is blocking out social media, other people’s opinions and is focusing on her baby. As I know from watching Keeping up with the Kardashians for such a long time, Khloe has wanted a baby for many years. I am happy she has a baby and I hope that she gets some peace soon and doesn’t feel too much pain and sadness! Khloe seems like a resilient person. But, as anyone who’s been deeply betrayed knows, it is hard to see past it when you’re in it. Even Beyonce doubted her self-worth when Jay-Z cheated on her. It’s natural to feel that way, but that doesn’t mean anybody needs to settle for someone who betrays them in the worst way possible.

24HRS: Atlanta RAPPER EXTRAORDINAIRE

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24hrs (IG: @2fourhrs) and I (Christina/VanIsReal.com) after his show at Fortune Sound Club

What do you love about Vancouver?

I mean so far the weather was super cool, like the snow. It was like snowing, but it wasn’t too cold, so it was like super lit. And then, like, the people have really nice hospitality. It’s cool so far.

If you’ve ever felt like a freak or an outsider, what helped you through it?

The freak part? Like what type of freak? I’m just playing with you. Just following my dreams and people actually supporting what I do, like, and maybe at first people didn’t get it or understand it, but to see everyone scream my lyrics to my song, it looks like being the outsider or being different or being a freak or whatever it is helped me, and it paid off, so continue doing what you’re doing.

Here’s a link to his soundcloud: 24hrs soundcloud.

Background story from my perspective: I almost never go to live shows even though I often go out dancing to DJs, because it’s always a risk…you never know what you’re going to get. Another requirement for me if I’m going to see a live show is that I wanna hear music that lets me release some of my aggression and energy, so I gravitate towards rap shows since artists in this genre most often give me what I need out of a live show.

Anyways, I work super close to Fortune Sound Club and tonight while at work I thought I should take a look and see what was going on at Fortune tonight (Saturday, February 4th). I found out that an Atlanta rapper called 24hrs was doing a show.

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24hrs Open EP: No throwaway songs…he’s oozing talent.

Before tonight, I hadn’t heard of him and I didn’t listen to a second of his music before purchasing a ticket for myself and my boyfriend. I took a risk in spending $50 plus dollars on an artist I’d never heard (though during his show I realized I already did know some of his songs, I just didn’t know he was the artist performing them), and it was SO WORTH IT.

My job can be stressful at times and tonight my coworker and I were on the receiving end of intense anger coming from tenants of the building we work at, so I needed something to make me feel good after work. I felt reinvigorated after this show and I was on cloud nine after 24hrs let me interview him!

24hrs is such a present, confident, and fun artist. He owned the stage all the way. His music sounded so beautiful, tight, and powerful live and I am now a huge fan of 24hrs! I am always on the lookout for motivational, intense songs to add to my workout playlist, and I’ll be adding 24hrs EP Open tomorrow.

Thank 24hrs…I’m so happy to have some new special music to listen to.

Steph: Sexy Stems and Sound Advice

Words of wisdom: “Don’t shy away from feeling alone sometimes, because it’s super important in  how you figure out who you are.”

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“I’ve definitely felt like a freak and an outsider…I love fashion, and I love personal expression. And I think as a young, adult female trying to figure a way out about your look and everything like that, it can be really hard, so I think my advice, or like what helped me, is just to like give in to what you like. And like, there’s people out there, so stick with it.”

I noticed Steph while on campus at UBC today because she’s very beautiful. I’m so glad I approached her for an interview though instead of just admiring her from afar, because she is also very sweet and intelligent. Steph knows what’s up!

 

Mad Dog

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Mad Dog and his adorable pug, Yoda, are local fixtures, and he generously shared a few of his thoughts with me today.

In terms of why Mad Dog loves Vancouver, he thinks that it’s because: “I came from Alberta when I was 13 years old, and, like, if you were gay you had to stay in the closet or else you’d get beat up. I love Vancouver for being who you want, and, like, no big issue about it, right? That’s what makes Vancouver”.

My obligatory second question “If you’ve ever felt like a freak or an outsider, what helped you through it?” generated the following response: “I’ve always been a freak, and that’s fine because I’d rather be a freak than a straight normal person”.

“Love” Sucks (Yet I Managed to Watch 270 Minutes Of It In Less Than 24 Hrs)

This article is primarily addressed to women, so I’m going to start off with a question for all you ladies out there: Are you drop-dead gorgeous?

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(Mickey is played by Gillian Jacobs (left) and Gus is played by Paul Rust (right))

OK. Well, if you answered no to that question, then I want to let you know I’m with you. I think I’m beautiful, and I love myself, but I am no beauty queen and I don’t get attention from men in any noticeable way during my daily life. I am also not friends with guys, and subsequently, I have no platonic friends who are also male admirers (that I know of). Therefore, I was sadly very disappointed by the representation of women in Netflix’s new series produced and created by the highly-successful Judd Apatow (director of 40 Year-Old Virgin, Knocked Up, This Is 40, and producer of HBO’s Girls), and real-life married couple Lesley Arfin and Paul Rust (who’s Gus on “Love”).

Due to the female characters on Girls, which I think are relatable (maybe because I’m a 32 year-old, privileged, educated white female who lives a trendy, comfortable lifestyle in Vancouver, BC), I thought this TV series might be another example of a television show that would make me feel better about myself, and that would make me laugh at all of the crazy things people do. Well, sadly I was wrong.

“Love” perpetuates the idea that a woman can be a cruel, insensitive, and ignorant person who doesn’t hesitate to use her friends as tools, and she’ll still end up with the sweet, loyal, kind geeky guy, or find love, in the end all because she’s such a rebel (aka HOT) and complicated (aka HOT) and trying to change (aka HOT).

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Since most of us are not perfect physical specimens this narrative is quite troubling. Mickey is one of the two protagonists on the series “Love”. Mickey is played by the insanely sexy-looking (my opinion of course) actress Gillian Jacobs. I loved how Gillian Jacobs played the character of Mimi Rose on “Girls”. After Hannah (played by Lena Dunham) and Adam (played by Adam Driver) break-up, Adam rebounds with the beautiful, talented, and successful artist Mimi Rose.

Hannah is understandably threatened and jealous of Mimi Rose, and I related to that since I have felt jealous of my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend because I think she is really attractive, skinny, and from what I’ve observed of her online image, she is free of flaws. Of course, I know that’s not the truth, since everyone has flaws, but the storyline with Mimi Rose was one I connected with. Image is not reality, but it’s sometimes so hard to realize you don’t know the truth about people from an online profile. In the end, Adam finds out that Mimi Rose had an abortion and didn’t tell him, and he’s hurt and feels like he can’t trust Mimi Rose.

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Jacobs ability to portray Mimi Rose in a way that made me feel like Mimi Rose is a real person led me to incorrectly assume that I would relate to Jacobs on “Love”. Gillian Jacobs portrayal of Mickey got under my skin pretty quickly, maybe in part because I’m the opposite from a girl who always says dude, just chill man, and lies whenever it suits her fancy. My honesty has gotten me into trouble many times before, so I know I have extra resentment when I see people and characters who lie and pretend like it’s no big deal.

Spoiler alert: I’m going to start getting into more specific plot details from here on in, so if you want to watch the series with fresh eyes, I suggest you stop reading. For example, Mickey is a self-identified alcoholic and drug addict (marijuana and ecstasy were the drugs she uses over the course of the series), and after bingeing on vodka one weekend she goes to an AA meeting and lies about how long she’s been sober for. I am an alcoholic and I haven’t drank alcohol for over 7 years now, and I’ve been to AA before. It’s such a personal thing to attend an AA meeting, and I felt vulnerable sharing my experiences at the meetings I went to, so it’s kind of disgusting someone would lie in that kind of a situation.

I know I need to be more compassionate for people who are different from me though, and while it’s hard to understand compulsive lying, I can also see that if you’re ashamed of what you’re doing, then there’s a chance you’ll lie to conceal what you’re embarrassed about. Another night Mickey blows off plans with Gus to “be alone”. Then she ends up going out with a bunch of people partying, doing ecstasy with a guy played by Andy Dick and staying up all night, and by the time morning rolls around Mickey calls Gus and he’s right there ready and waiting to make plans with her for later in the day.

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Paul Rust and Creators/Writers/Executive Producers Lesley Arfin and Judd Apatow seen at the Los Angeles premiere of the Netflix original series ‘Love’ at The Vista Theatre on Thursday, Feb. 11, 2016, in Los Angeles, CA. (Photo by Eric Charbonneau/Invision for Netflix/AP Images)

Part of my anger towards a character like Mickey comes from my own experiences where I’ve chosen to have a sexual relationship with men who make it clear they’re not really all that into me, and that they’re not monogamous. Then I’ve subjected myself to listening to them go on about how hot the girl they wish they could be with is, or I’ve been ditched as soon as one of these femme fatales (how I judgmentally chose to see them) want some male attention. I’ve never been in the position of the girl who has all these guys chasing after her. There have been a few times when I’ve had casual sexual relationships with men who I didn’t find very attractive, but I would quickly cut things off entirely in these situations, because I don’t like stringing people along. Yep, you’re sensing that I have a superiority complex, and that’s probably annoying, but I’m letting you know how I think whether it’s right or not.

I told a guy who I wasn’t into that I didn’t think we could be friends, because if we were to go out to a bar together and I found someone attractive, I would feel bad for ditching him. He said he wouldn’t care, but I thought he would and I didn’t want to cause him unnecessary pain. I think that sometimes it’s wise to ignore what people say and go with your gut. If a guy wants to have sex with you, spend time with you, and you tell him you’re not into him, then it’s also realistic to assume he might feel frustrated or crappy if you attempt to have a platonic relationship with him. Awkward situations can be minimized or avoided if you’re willing to sacrifice the attention that comes having lots of guy or girl friends (who also might secretly or not-so-secretly be into you).

Gus meets Mickey when she’s in a convenience store, and she doesn’t have any money to pay for the coffee she just poured. Mickey starts verbally harassing the Asian clerk (and this is the first of three time total where Mickey feels the need to treat Asian people with accents like crap by yelling at them) and Gus steps in to save the day. He offers to pay for her coffee, and instead of appreciating that, she asks for him to buy her a pack of cigarettes too. Gus is an average–or maybe below average (I think he’s hot, but he’s definitely not traditionally good-looking)–guy, and since he’s immediately intrigued by Mickey (I guess beauty is hard to ignore) he gladly pays for both.

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Outside of the store Mickey tells Gus she can pay him back, and then proceeds to insult him when he says she doesn’t need to pay him back. From what I saw, Mickey’s sense of entitlement makes her really annoying and rude. Nevertheless, Gus is still into her after this short interaction and their “friendship” starts to unfold. At least the television show stays true to real-life by showing that Gus is always openly aware that he’s attracted to Mickey because of how hot she is, and doesn’t lie and tell himself he only wants to be her friend.

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(Mickey’s roommate Bertie (Claudia O’Doherty)…I want to see more of this funny actress!)

Mickey gets an Australian roommate named Bertie (played by Claudia O’Doherty) to move into her place. Bertie is my favourite character from the series. Bertie is also a sexy young white female, but not quite as model-like as Mickey, and therefore much more relatable. Early on in the series Mickey sets-up Gus and Bertie on a date. Since Gus and Bertie aren’t meant for each other, the date starts to go badly. Bertie goes to the bathroom and accidentally texts Gus a message intended for Mickey about their terrible date. Gus texts Mickey the text he receives from Bertie (originally meant for Mickey) and then Mickey texts Bertie the text Gus sent (are you following me?).

A cat-and-mouse game ensues where Mickey plays both of her friends in order to entertain herself. It’s the first night that Mickey is trying to be genuinely sober and spend time at home alone without any male attention, so she devolves into screwing over Gus and Bertie, even though Mickey’s the one who set them up on this date in the first place. Gus drops Bertie off after their horrendous date, and when he leaves Mickey and Bertie’s place, Mickey runs out and kisses Gus. He’s suddenly attractive after letting Mickey know her antics are not okay.

Also, this is supposed to be a comedy! Do you think this stuff sounds funny? I didn’t think it’s funny at all. Want something funny to watch? I watched all 3 seasons of the Showtime series “Episodes” starring Matt LeBlanc this past week. “Episodes” actually made me laugh. The entertainment I got from watching “Love” came from how easy it was to criticize the characters of Mickey and Gus.

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When I started watching “Love” last night I had 2 female friends over, and they both started asking why Mickey’s dressed like a 70s porn star and wearing next-to-nothing. So true! During the first episode Mickey is super scantily clad in a red one-piece (bathing suit?) and her nipples are very erect and apparent through her spandex top throughout most of the scenes. It’s distracting! Yes, women and men shouldn’t have to suppress or hide their sexuality since it is a part of human nature, but I think that this crosses the line to the point where Mickey is her nips, and not much more.

Based on what I have seen in my own life, I think it’s undeniable that physically attractive people are given certain privileges that other people are not. I have watched hot people speak and behave in ways that I can’t imagine less attractive people trying to pull-off. I think the reason why some beautiful folks are extra self-centred behaviour is because they can get away with it. Lots of not as hot people let very hot people do whatever they want all because us normal peeps hope the freakishly hot people might want to have sex with us.

The part that I think “Love” overlooks is that while a beautiful girl like Mickey will never be alone, people that are huge users like Mickey probably don’t end up with genuine, sweet, and loyal people. If you’re a conniving, manipulative person who puts your own needs above others at all times and lies to get what you want, then I think the people who will want to be around you in a permanent way aren’t going to be all that great. People who love themselves and respect themselves eventually walk away from the Mickey’s of the world (or so I hope).

I did a little more research and I found out something interesting that surprised me: co-creators Lesley Arfin and Paul Rust are married, and they apparently used their own relationship as a loose model for the series. This detail made me like the series a little more, and feel a little bit less offended by the sexism on the show. Is that weird?

Victoria, Hiro, and Shlomo Think They’re Freaks and Outsiders…But It’s OK Because We All Are: I Agree!

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                  l to r: Victoria, Hiro, and Shlomo

I asked my usual 2 questions today, and the responses I got to the second one (If you’ve ever felt like a freak or an outsider, what has helped/is helping you through it?) was met with some invigorating responses.

Victoria said what’s helped her is, “The fact that everybody else is an outsider too. So we’re all from somewhere and that’s helped me.”

“We agree that it’s [Vancouver I’m assuming] a place for freaks, and that’s why we like it so much!”-Hiro

And to finish it all off Shlomo added, “Freak right out!”